Co-dependency with our loved ones can rob us of much of our personal power. But what of co-dependencies with our illusions? Other people serve as our mirrors. ‘There is something about you that really annoys me about me’. We also see mirrored in others our gifts and strengths. We project onto them positive traits and qualities that are unacknowledged within ourselves. Our expectations of their response to a given situation will usually line up with how we ourselves would respond. Unfortunately, this may not be their truth and we find ourselves disappointed. The gap between our expectations and reality invites pain. Thus, we create an illusion of who they are and what they mean to us in order to ease our discomfort. Then, we emotionally attach to this illusion. We need to stop and take a look within ourselves. The qualities we so desperately want to see in others actually reside within us! As we take the path of self-discovery, we can stand tall in our own truth and Divine Nature and let go of the illusion of relying on it in someone else.
-By Kathy Truman
